#lifegoals

#lifegoals

It can be pretty difficult to find motivation when you suffer with anxiety, to pull yourself out of a certain type of sadness. People will tell you to just cheer up – which is quite possibly the worst thing you could say to someone dealing with any kind of mental health issue. 

One way I find really helps me feel a little more positive is to create lists of things I want to achieve for myself. It can give you a focus, and it can be big things and little things. They don’t need to be immediate either; they can be long term goals. Revisiting them now and again can make you realise how far you are always going even when you don’t see it. 

My biggest goal for the next couple of years or so is to move out. I actually don’t mind living with my parents at all, we get along really well and it’s always nice to have some company around, but I would love to have a place to call my own. To decorate exactly how I want to, to have a completely pastel pink kitchen, to create a little haven to spend my evenings. How many of us spend nights pinning house ideas when we already have a bedroom full to the brim of Ikea furniture? I don’t really know when this will become possible, as money is always a difficult one, buying property is so expensive for young people on their own, but each month watching my savings go up a little makes me feel more and more positive about achieving it. 

Visiting America – I’m sure lots of you reading this probably already have done this many times, but I haven’t visited a single one of the US states and I am absolutely dying to! I’m always quite keen to go travelling on my own – my mother hates this idea – but I love my own company and having the freedom to explore at my own pace and do my own thing. Top of my list is New York, I read almost constantly and this is the back drop to many of my favourite stories and I would love to see the things I’ve read about. Dash and Lily’s Book of Dares, is possibly my biggest reason, it doesn’t really talk about the huge tourist attractions, but the quite intimate locations you’d know if you actually lived there. 

“I wanted to talk to someone. But who? It’s moments like this, when you need someone the most, that your world seems smallest.”
― Rachel Cohn, Dash & Lily's Book of Dares

One of my biggest achievements up to now has been my weight loss journey (I’ll do a separate post on how I did it if you guys are interested.) I’ve lost three stone in about three years and changed my entire body image. I still have a lot of issues with my body, and I still see someone a lot bigger in the mirror than I truly am, but I’ve come so far. I love exercising and the way that it makes me feel, I also love the changes I see in my body shape every day! I still have treats all the time but I now know my limits and I won’t ever go back to who I was before.

 People often think as a single person life must be pretty boring, and sometimes it can feel as if not having one person to always do things with can be a little bit – depressing! But I have a lot of great friends to go on adventures with. I love trips to London, to try new things, the city always overwhelms and it’s just an hour from me on the train. I also love visiting my friend in Scotland, exploring Glasgow and Edinburgh and other places in between. I see nights out and going out for meals as little achievements because there has been days where even getting out of bed seemed impossible. So I try and socialise at least twice a week! Such a small thing but can make a huge difference. 

 

Soooo those are just a few of the goals I have! What are you guys hoping to achieve? I think we often forget what we’ve already achieved when things don’t feel so happy... but in the past couple of years I’ve reached my goal weight, learnt to drive and got my dream job! And if that isn’t something to be proud of then I don’t know what is! 

Posting early as I'm in the air tomorrow!

Lots of love Ciara xxxxxxxxxxx